Have you ever felt great even though something you consider negative happened? For instance maybe it was raining and you were all soaked and you still smiled and enjoyed the moment, or maybe something you consider good happened and you still felt bad. These examples show us that we can choose our emotions and we don’t have to react to the situation or to the other person.

Change your negative emotions into positive emotions

Usually our decision to feel a certain emotion is unconscious but it doesn’t have to be that way. At first you’ll notice your emotions only after you feel them. Start by accepting your emotions and take full responsibility for them, you can’t change something until you accept it.

Think about the positive intent of the feeling. E.g. Perhaps the fear helps saving your life or gives you a feeling of safety. If you don’t know what the intent is you can use the Six-Step Reframing technique to find the positive intentions and to find alternative ways to accomplish your positive function.

Permit yourself to feel sad, frightened, angry or any emotion you consider negative. Explain yourself that it’s ok to feel that way and distinguish between the emotion and yourself. If you feel angry it doesn’t mean that  you’re angry and if you feel scared it doesn’t mean you’re a coward.

Don’t try to block the emotion, instead let yourself feel it as much as you can. If you’ll stay with the emotion you’ll find peace. Notice if you’ve unpleasant feelings in the body every time you feel the emotion, if you do ask yourself what emotion lays underneath the first emotion and let yourself feel it. Keep doing it until you feel all the emotions.

Realize that you don’t feel that way all day long, there are times when you feel great. Think about all the instances when you felt bad, what do they all have in common? In most cases you’ll see that it’s related to a few areas in your life that require your attention. It can be areas like self acceptance and love, making independent decisions, loneliness and so on. These areas are related to limiting beliefs. Talk to someone about the things that bother you. It’s best to talk to a professional but your friends and family can help too.

Think about all the times you felt great. Remember what it was like feel the emotions, remember the things you saw, heard, smelled and so on. Make an image of the good times you had, make the colors of the image bright and vivid. Make the image bigger and bigger and notice how you feel about it. Play with it until you feel wonderful. Our thoughts influence our emotions, If you have a negative sentence that you keep repeating in your mind simply replace it with something short and positive.

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The psychological aspect

There are hundreds of books about weight loss and dozens of diets, and yet people keep searching for that ultimate diet. The one that will actually work. The problem with diets is that they focus only on the physical aspect and you can’t diet forever. Once you quit you gain the weight back and often even more than before.

So what works? The answer is changing your life style. It works because it’s permanent. Before changing your life style it’s important to understand why you chose it in the first place. I’ll give you a couple examples:

1 Mary was molested when she was a teenager and ever since she thought that being attractive is dangerous and therefore she gained weight to protect herself. Usually such thoughts are unconscious meaning she isn’t even aware she thinks them. To change her behavior she will need to change her beliefs.

2 When John was little his mom offered him cookies every time he felt sad. With time John linked pleasure to eating and ate every time he felt sad or depressed to comfort himself, often regardless of his actual hunger. In many similar cases a vicious cycle is created. People feel bad because they’re obese so they eat to feel better; and the cycle is perpetuated.

These examples illustrate that it’s vital to understand the psychological reasons in order to successfully lose weight. It’s also important to understand your rules and their hierarchy.

Each of us has rules like I have to be nice to people, or I should clean the apartment once a week. The difference between should and have to rules are that should are rules that you prefer to do but you don’t link pain to not doing them, and have to are rules that you feel obligated to do because otherwise you’ll feel pain.

One of the differences between obese and slim people are their rules. often slim people have a big list of I have to rules like: I have to exercise four times in a week, I have to eat healthy, I can’t smoke, I can’t use drugs, etc and a short list of I should rules.

Obese people on the other hand have a long list of I should rules: I should exercise,eat healthy and so on, and a short list of I have to rules like: I have to eat, sleep eight hours, and so on. If you want to lose weight you have to make it a priority, change your I should to I have to rules. This will not mean that you’ll do something against your will, it just means that you’ll make it a high priority because you’ll understand that the current condition can’t last.

Using NLP to lose weight

Lets say you have two conflicting parts. A part that wants to lose weight, we’ll call it part X and a part that sabotages part X, we’ll call it part Y. What we want to do is to establish a communication between the parts and to reach a mutual agreement.

The following techniques are from a book called Reframing : neuro-linguistic programming and the transformation of meaning by Richard Bandler and John Grinder.After reading them choose the appropriate one and do it. It won’t help if you just read it.

These techniques include the term reframing which I want to explain first: Just like when you change the frame of a picture and suddenly everything fits and the picture looks great, Reframing in NLP means to view a situation from a different perspective. This is done to to help accept the situation and deal with it better.

Negotiating between parts

1) Ask the part that is being interrupted (part X) the following questions:

a) What is your positive function?

b) Which part(s) is (are) interrupting you? (part Y)

2) Ask the same questions of part Y:

a) What is your positive function?

b) Does X ever interfere with your function?

3) If both parts interrupt each other at times, you are now ready to
negotiate an agreement. (If not, this model is not appropriate, so
switch to another reframing model. If Y interferes with X, but X
doesn’t interfere with Y, six-step reframing with Y may be most
appropriate.)

a) Ask Y if its function is important enough that Y would be willing
to not interrupt X so that it could receive the same treatment in return.

b) Ask X if it was not interrupted by Y, would it be willing to not interrupt Y?

4) Ask each part if it will actually agree to do the above for a specified
amount of time. If either part becomes dissatisfied for any reason, it
is to signal the person that there is a need to renegotiate.

5) Ecological check: “Are there any other parts involved in this?” “Are
there any other parts that interrupt this part, or that utilize these
interruptions?” If so, renegotiate.

Six Step Reframing

1) Identify the pattern (X) to be changed. “I want to stop X’ing but I
can’t,” or “I want to Y, but something stops me.”

2) Establish communication with the part responsible for the pattern.

a) “Will the part of me that makes me X communicate with me in
consciousness?” Pay attention to any feelings, images, or sounds that occur in response to asking that question internally.

b) Establish the “yes/no” meaning of the signal. Have it increase in brightness, volume, or intensity for “yes,” and decrease for “no.”

3) Separate the behavior, pattern X, from the positive intention of the
part that is responsible for X. The unwanted behavior is only a way to achieve some positive function.

a) Ask the part that runs X “Would you be willing to let me know in consciousness what you are trying to do for me by Pattern X?”

b) If you get a “yes” response, ask the part to go ahead and communicate its intention. If you get a “no” response, proceed with
unconscious reframing, presupposing positive intention.

c) Is that intention acceptable to consciousness? Do you want to
have a part of you which fulfills that function?

d) Ask the part that runs X “If there were ways to accomplish your positive function that would work as well as, or better than X, would you be interested in trying them out?”

4) Access a creative part, and generate new behaviors to accomplish
the positive function.

a) Access experiences of creativity and anchor them, or ask “Are
you aware of a creative part of yourself?”

b) Have the part that runs X communicate its positive function to
the creative part, allow the creative part to generate more choices to accomplish that function, and have the part that used to run X select three choices that are at least as good or better than X. Have it give a “yes” signal each time it selects such an alternative.

5) Ask the part “Are you willing to take responsibility for using the
three new alternatives in the appropriate context?” This provides a
future-pace. In addition you can ask the part at the unconscious
level to identify the sensory cues that will trigger the new choices,
and to experience fully what it’s like to have those sensory cues
effortlessly and automatically bring on one of the new choices.

6) Ecological Check. “Is there any part of me that objects to any of the three new alternatives?” If there is a “yes” response, recycle to step 2 above.
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The physical aspect

It’s important to understand that the changes I offer are for life, it’s not a diet. As you know changing your psychology isn’t enough. To lose weight you have to eat less calories than the body consumes. To do so you’ll have to do two things: cut back on your calories and exercise.

Eat healthy

The easiest way to cut back on your calories is to eat less fat. Don’t eat: butter, milk with high percentages of fat, gravy for salads. Eat: lean meat, lean chicken (without the skin) and vital fats like: avocado, salmon and almonds. Of course in the right amount.

Although controlling your calories is essential it’s not enough, it’s equally important to control your hormones. The hormones manage the body’s metabolism. Repressing the hormones that are responsible for fat accumulation will result in a large quantity of fats that can be burn in activity.

To effectively manage your hormones you need to manage your Carbohydrates, because consuming carbohydrates elevates the levels of insulin in the body. Insulin is a hormone that interferes with decomposition of fats. Not all the carbohydrates are the same. Simple carbohydrates like the ones in white bread, white rice, potatoes and some cereals elevate the insulin very fast and therefore should be avoided. On the other hand complex carbohydrates like the ones in whole wheat bread, oats, yam and beans should be in your daily menu.

Calories and hormones determine whether the nutrition will be used to build muscles or to build fat, While the number of meals during the day affects the general metabolism. Every time you eat the metabolism increases slightly. If you’ll eat six times in a day your metabolism will increase six times.

It’s a way to lose weight without eating less. It doesn’t mean that you need to eat more, on the contrary you will need to eat less in each meal and chew slowly because it takes approximately twenty minutes before the brain signals the body that your full.

Drink a lot of water. The following video explains more about the benefits of drinking a lot of water.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=8xQyldIzFZk

Exercise

Do aerobics (exercises for improving the body’s oxygen intake ). Aerobics include running, swimming, dancing, walking fast, yoga and so on. To produce a benefit, aerobic training must raise the heart rate (pulse) to the exerciser’s target level for at least 20 minutes and include at least three sessions a week.

Aerobics has three benefits: it improves your cardiovascular fitness, it burns calories and it influences your hormones. Aerobics elevates the norepinephrine hormone that helps burn fats. it’s best to do aerobics in the morning before eating breakfast for an hour max.

Do anaerobic exercise (exercise intense enough to trigger anaerobic metabolism). Anaerobic exercise includes: heavy weight-lifting, all types of sprints (running, biking, etc.), jumping rope, hill climbing, interval training, isometrics, or any rapid burst of hard exercise.

Besides making you stronger and improving your cardiovascular fitness it will improve your metabolism and stamina. To lose weight a good combination would be to do aerobics four times in a week and Anaerobic exercise twice in a week.

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1Utilize your opportunities. Al Pacino explains this principle in the video from the movie Any given Sunday.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=WO4tIrjBDkk

Every day there is at least one thing you can do for yourself that will improve your life. These are the inches he talks about. Every little change we implement can dramatically change our life over time.

2Utilize Kaizen. Kaizen (from Japanese) means continuous improvement throughout all aspects of life. The Japanese know that daily activity no matter how small can make a difference and ultimately create the desired outcome. Toyota is one of the companies that uses Kaizen to improve their business.

Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better. — Jim Rohn

There are four main areas where you can focus: relationships, health, work and wealth,spirituality and personal growth. These areas are overlapping and as you’ll improve your skill in one of them you’ll see that the other areas are improving as well. All you need is a strong enough decision to change your life. Even if your life is great you can always improve and see that there is more.

3Understand how you operate. According to NLP we use three Representational systems: auditory ,visual and kinesthetic i.e. feelings. Every experience you have is processed by these systems. It easy to know which one you use at any given moment by looking at your eyes.

VC -- Visual Constructed Images
VR -- Visual Remembered Images
AC -- Auditory Constructed
AR -- Auditory Remembered
F -- Feeling / kinesthetic
AD -- Auditory Digital-Internal Dialog

These standard eye directions will usually apply in the case of normally organized right-handed people. However People differ and not everyone will have the same pattern. By asking questions you can easily know their eye movement pattern.

To check for VC ask imaginary questions like how would you look like with a purple hair.
VR- How many traffic lights do you pass on the way to work?
AC- What voice would an alien have if he talked to you?
AR- Can you remember what your fathers voice sounds like?
F- How does it feel when you get a massage?
AD- when people look down and To the right they are probably talking to themselves.

So how can this help you? Well besides knowing when someone is lying (you ask a question their eyes move to the left meaning they are constructing an image or a sound) you can understand how you operate.

If for example you’re afraid of swimming then every time you’re near a pool you’re creating your fear by using the representational systems. It can be using AD, (“swimming is scary”) and then using VC to imagine yourself drowning.

by understanding your process you can change it. If you don’t exactly know your process a friend can help you by asking questions about your experience and looking at your eyes.

In this video you can see a demonstration.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rl9sOYPT5UY

4Understand the law of opposite result. If you’ll go to sleep and can’t sleep what will you do? You’ll try to fall asleep but every effort you’ll make will result in just the opposite. Sleep is relaxation, you can’t will it to happen and the more you’ll try the more detrimental it will be. The only way to fall asleep is to do nothing.

This happens in many areas. If you try to remember a name or a face and you feel that it’s on the tip of your tongue, the more you’ll try to remember, it won’t come. Usually you’ll do something else and suddenly it will come. You can’t force anything related to your subconscious.

If you want to fall asleep you can say to yourself that even if you won’t, it will still be ok and just lying in bed will help you refresh. Meditation is also a form of relaxation, you can’t force it. When you meditate don’t try to do something, simply relax and breath deeply.

5Don’t try to change others. Bayazid al-Bestami a Sufi mystic wrote in his autobiography:”when I was young I asked god to give me strength so I can change the world. I was a revolutionist and I wanted to change the world.

When I got older I started praying: It seems too much. my life are slipping through my fingers- nearly half of my life has passed and I haven’t changed even one person. maybe the whole world is too much. I said to god my family is enough let me change my family.

As I got older I understood that even my family is too much, and who am I to change them? I understood that if I’ll change myself it’ll be enough. I’ve prayed to god now I’ve come to the right conclusion. At least let me change myself.

God replied: now there is no time. You should have asked that at the beginning.”

Everyone understand that in the end. It’s important to understand that in the beginning. Even changing yourself isn’t easy, there is a whole world inside you. When you’ll change yourself you’ll see that everyone and everything else changed.

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In my previous post I wrote about the electromagnetic field around us that some call the aura. According to the Wikipedia definition It affects the behavior of charged objects in the vicinity of the field and extends indefinitely throughout space.

The matrix

Our thoughts are pure energy they can even be measured with the right equipment. This energy extends indefinitely throughout space and affects everything around it. The energy vibrates at different speeds depending on your thoughts,words,feelings and actions. Everyone contributes to this energy and so the space between us is full of it

A complex matrix that contains all the energys is created. This matrix is the combined energy field that we live in and it affects everything including everyone that created it. Every new energy that is sent influences the field which influences the people that sent the energy and it goes like this forever. This is easily demonstrated if for instance you enter a room and you can feel the tension in the air or you buy a car and suddenly you see that exact model everywhere you go.

Everyone on earth and in the universe emits energy to every direction. The energy is mixed with the other energys and creates complex patterns. In this matrix we send messages and other influences to each other.

The matrix affects everything, it creates wars, sickness, poverty or health, peace and wealth depending on the energy. The energy we emit is constantly interacting with everything else. As we get closer to something the energy between us intensify as we get farther from it the energy refines, however it’s never separated. There is a point between yourself and everything that exists, at this point the energys meet and create a third energy which is less dense.

the energys in the matrix are attracted to each other, its called the law of attraction. According to the law everything attracts what’s similar to it. Thoughts of certain kind attract thoughts of the same kind along the matrix. When enough of that energy is combined the vibrations become heavier, they slow down and some of it materializes. Thoughts can create physical form and when a lot of people think the same there is a very high probability that they will create a certain reality.

Global awareness of some kind can influence the entire world or only the range where these collective thoughts are powerful. The matrix pulls itself into itself, it pulls energy of some kind to energys of the same kind and it even attracts physical objects to each other. These objects must repel each other so that they won’t merge forever and actually won’t exist in their current form. That’s why although we are attracted to each other we eventually pull back.

Levels of creation

In life we always have three options:
1) To let our uncontrolled thoughts create our reality.
2) To let our aware thoughts create our reality.
3) To let global awareness create our reality.
We also create from three different levels: our consciousness, our subconscious and what can be called the superconscious. The superconscious is the consciousness of the soul.

rarely we create from all three simultaneously, usually we do it from one or two at a time. The three levels help explain what seem to be a contradiction. On the one hand we create our reality, all of it including our death. There is no such thing as a sudden death. On the other hand we don’t want what we call negative events in our lives.

We all know stories of healthy vibrant people, who were full of life and yet they died. If you will ask their friends they will tell you that they didn’t want to die, however God doesn’t decide when we will die. He lets us do that. God gave us free choice and the power to create our reality, he will not interfere even if our choices seem harmful.

We want to die when we achieved everything we came to achieve in this lifetime using this body. The decision to die comes from the superconscious level. Rarely we are conscious of it.

What we call negative events usually come from the subconscious and superconscious. There are no negative events every event servers our higher purpose which is to experience life and to experience ourselves in the highest form possible. Luck doesn’t exist and there are no coincidences, we create our own luck. Every experience helps our development. Sometimes in order to experience what you want you have to experience what you don’t want.

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