Spirituality and Self Help » Problem Solving

How To Achieve Your Desired Outcome

shimon — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 10:28:27 +0000

Many are stubborn in pursuit of the path they have chosen, few in pursuit of the goal. — Friedrich Nietzsche

Many feel that they can achieve more, they feel that something is missing in their lives. There are many ways to achieve a desired outcome. In this post I want to describe two ways I find efficient.

The first is to reverse the Do, Have, Be order. Most of us try to Do something (work,beauty treatment) in order to Have something (money,looks) so we can Be something (happy,safe).

By reversing the order and operating out of a state of happiness,joy,peace of mind,confidence or whatever resource you feel beneficial, you will Do(work etc) with more harmony and thus will have or achieve with ease and comfort. As a result the achievement will be much faster and more enjoyable.

Just imagine how your work will be different if you’ll smile and act generally happy. It might even open doors to you that otherwise would stay shut.

The second way has four steps:
1The first step is to identify the desired state.This means more that just recognizing what you want. It means considering how the change will affect you. For instance what will you do in your work, relationships, leisure time etc. At this point it’s also wise to do an internal ecology check.

Ask yourself the following questions:
1)What will I gain if I make this change?
2)What extra will I have to do?
3)Is it worth it?
4)What is the price of making this change and am I willing to pay it?
5)What are the good aspects of the present state?
6)How can I keep those good aspects while making the change I want?
7)What are the wider consequences of my action?

Once you determine your goal your brain will automatically start organizing your unconscious to achieve it.

2The second step is to identify the present state. This seems like an unnecessary step right? After all we all know where we stand. However the point of this step is to identify the problem, what’s holding us back? Or why haven’t we achieved what we wanted yet? Knowing what’s hindering our achievement helps us understand what resources are needed.

The present state + Resources = Desired state.In order to achieve anything one must believe that it is achievable at general, and that he can achieve it with the proper resources. he’s got to want to change, know how to change, and give himself the chance to change. There is a formula for success:The present state + Resources = Desired state.

3The third step is to identify the appropriate resources needed to get from the present state to the desired state. The resources needed often include accessing the right states in your body. We act differently when we are happy or excited than when are afraid or sad. They may also include lack of information or skills. Moreover some people find that they need new beliefs to assist them with the change.

4The fourth step is eliminating any interferences through using those resources. This step is really a process it takes time and effort to successfully add resources and get rid of hindering beliefs. There are many ways to add resources. One technique I find useful is called the circle of excellence, it was developed by Dr. John Grinder co-creator of NLP.

The circle of excellence

1)Imagine a circle on the floor large enough to step into. Give it a color.

2) Step into the circle and think of a time when you felt great, You had the resources you require. Vividly see through your eyes what you saw when you felt this way. Hear what you heard and feel what you felt. If you don’t remember such events simply pretend you’re feeling this way, What’s important in this exercise is the emotion.

3) Make the emotion stronger. Make the picture you’re seeing bigger with more colors and double the size of the image. Make the sounds louder and pleasant. You can add a giggle or the sounds of people cheering for you.

4) Repeat steps 2 and 3 with more resources(courage,joy) until you add everything you require to act differently in what was previously an uncomfortable situation.

5)Imagine that the color you picked for the circle is starting to raise from the floor all the way up, it transforms every cell making you full of resources, it opens you’re chakras in the process. Imagine you’re glowing with this color, and it gets bigger and bigger. It fills the room with the color and than you’re city,country and the world.

6)step out of the circle and think of a situation that was previously difficult, now imagine how you’ll act differently with you’re new resources. When you feel good about the situation step into the circle again and repeat the second and the third step regarding your situation. Step out of the circle.

7) Now you can choose to transform the circle into a bracelet to wear or into a marble to put in your pocket. Whichever you choose pay attention to it’s weight, to it’s feeling, maybe it emits a nice warm feeling. Now the circle is always with you and you can feel this emotions whenever you want.

Resolve Your Inner Conflicts – Achieve More

shimon — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 02:59:43 +0000

I want to tell you a true story. This is a story about a Japanese soldier called Hiroo Onoda. On December 17, 1944 the Japanese sent a group of soldiers to the Philippines to fight in the world war II. Onoda was stationed on a small island and after the Allied forces attacked the island he retreated into the jungle. The war ended in 1945 however Onoda didn’t know that he kept fighting. The aforementioned text is an excerpt from a post I wrote at peoplejam .You should read the post first and then watch the videos.

NLP Parts Integration (part 1/2)

www.youtube.com/watch?v=MgaMTHl5PZM

NLP Parts Integration (part 1/2)

www.youtube.com/watch?v=_l_gifjMuQs

Do What’s Right – Do What’s Hard

shimon — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 13:32:05 +0000

Some of the books I read talk about doing what’s easy in life. They say that if faced with an obstacle you should always seek an easier path, because there are a lot more ways to choose from than we can see.

From my experience sometimes when you are doing what’s hard you are making the biggest progress, because the experience molds you just like a bodybuilder pushing weights to mold his body. His muscles grow by pain, not excessive pain but just in the right amount.

So what’s the right amount? Like many things in life it’s something that requires balance. For instance if you come from work and you watch TV for 4 hours and then go to sleep instead of doing something that you really want like reading something beneficial or even dating if you’re single, than clearly you’re not doing enough of what’s hard.

What’s hard and what’s easy are really only definitions that we make. Objectively there are no easy or hard, what’s easy for me may be hard for you and vice versa. It all depends on how you link pain and pleasure.

Each time you do something that’s hard, you increase your options thus making yourself more flexible and therefore more powerful. The more options you have in any given situation the more powerful you become.

However sometimes what you want is way above your competence at the moment thus making it virtually impossible for you. If that’s the case then you should consider how much do you want it? In some cases there are easier alternatives that can satisfy your needs in other ways, for example if you want to be rich because you think it will give a peace of mind than what you really want is peace of mind and that can be achieved with less effort.

If however you decide that you want to achieve something and you try for a long time without results you should consider requesting help. It’s not easy to admit that we need help. For some reason we assume that we should be able to know everything and always act according to our needs.

Deep down inside you know what you should do, it is the things that frighten you the most that you should do first. I know it’s hard but there are really no alternatives. If you won’t do what’s necessary sooner or later your body will start sending signals and you will probably feel physical pain. Remember what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

The Complete Guide to Problem Solving – Make your life easier

shimon — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 22:09:38 +0000

We all have problems. A problem is the difference between the present situation and the desired one. From now on I will use the word challenge instead of the word problem. Because a problem is really a challenge waiting to be accomplished. It all depends on the point of view.

In order to accomplish any challenge the first thing you need to do is to decide what will be your attitude towards the challenge. There are really only three choices.

The first choice is deciding that you’re a victim. This attitude means that there is nothing you can do, someone or the universe has done something to you and you’re an unfortunate person. The only thing you can probably do is to share your situation with others so that they can pity you. In addition some people mistaken the pity for love. Often these people get sick so that they can say to others how unfortunate they are and receive pity. Also some people make a habit of sharing their misfortune because “misery loves company” and thus they create more of it.

The second choice is to ignore the challenge, Bury the head in sand like an ostrich and hope that the challenge will go away. The problem with that choice is that if you don’t have a challenge then you can’t achieve it. Moreover some challenges get worse as the time goes by. They become harder to accomplish.

The third choice is to decide that you are going to accomplish the challenge no matter what. This post is really about the third choice.

Usually our decision is automatic. We don’t stop to think what is our attitude, though we should.

What would you do if you needed to arrive at a certain place and and at a certain time for a job interview in a place you’re not familiar with? you would probably ask someone for directions or look it up in a map. In much the same way the first step to any challenge is gathering information. So often people worry and therefore they don’t know how to accomplish the challenge simply because they don’t have all the information needed.

The second step is to break the challenge into a few smaller challenges. Many challenges seem overwhelming but by breaking them down into smaller pieces and complete them we are able to accomplish the bigger challenge.

The next step is deciding on a plan. A plan is an outline of how you’re going to achieve the challenge. When you have a plan you know what to do in every situation. You don’t have conflicts. It’s best to write it down. There was a study done about making a plan. Students were asked whether they had a plan for after graduation. Only about 3 percent had a plan. Guess what, after a few years those 3 percent were worth financially more than the other 97 percent combined.

After you have a plan start executing it. Do whatever it takes as long as you don’t hurt others in the process.

Fail. Yes you heard it right I said fail. Of course if you are able it’s best not to fail but most of the time people fail. When you fail you learn something and unless you start fearing failure it actually helps you. What do you learn when you are successful? Absolutely nothing you’re simply using what you already know.

All the really successful people failed a lot in their lives. When Tomas Edison was asked how he dealt with thousands of failures in attempt of inventing the light bulb, he replied “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”.

So after failing change your approach try something else. As Albert Einstein said the “the definition of Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Often people think that if they failed they should try harder. But the truth is if it didn’t work the first time and nothing is changed there is no reason for it to work the second time.

In order to achieve anything of value you have to be determined. Determination means that you never stop wanting it and you keep going in spite of all the difficulties.

If you will follow these instructions there is no doubt in my mind that you will achieve success.

The truth is I haven’t been completely honest. There is a a shortcut. Find a mentor. Find someone that achieved what you’re trying to achieve and ask him how he did it. This will make your quest for solving the problem much faster.