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How To Master Your Emotions To Achieve Peace Of Mind

shimon — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 20:25:52 +0000

Have you ever heard someone saying “he made me feel x” or “because of her I felt y” ? Maybe you even said it yourself. Stop for a moment and think about it, did they point a gun to your head and forced you to feel something? The truth is we and no one else are responsible for our emotions.

Have you ever felt great even though something you consider negative happened? For instance maybe it was raining and you were all soaked and you still smiled and enjoyed the moment, or maybe something you consider good happened and you still felt bad. These examples show us that we can choose our emotions and we don’t have to react to the situation or to the other person.

Change your negative emotions into positive emotions

Usually our decision to feel a certain emotion is unconscious but it doesn’t have to be that way. At first you’ll notice your emotions only after you feel them. Start by accepting your emotions and take full responsibility for them, you can’t change something until you accept it.

Think about the positive intent of the feeling. E.g. Perhaps the fear helps saving your life or gives you a feeling of safety. If you don’t know what the intent is you can use the Six-Step Reframing technique to find the positive intentions and to find alternative ways to accomplish your positive function.

Permit yourself to feel sad, frightened, angry or any emotion you consider negative. Explain yourself that it’s ok to feel that way and distinguish between the emotion and yourself. If you feel angry it doesn’t mean that you’re angry and if you feel scared it doesn’t mean you’re a coward.

Don’t try to block the emotion, instead let yourself feel it as much as you can. If you’ll stay with the emotion you’ll find peace. Notice if you’ve unpleasant feelings in the body every time you feel the emotion, if you do ask yourself what emotion lays underneath the first emotion and let yourself feel it. Keep doing it until you feel all the emotions.

Realize that you don’t feel that way all day long, there are times when you feel great. Think about all the instances when you felt bad, what do they all have in common? In most cases you’ll see that it’s related to a few areas in your life that require your attention. It can be areas like self acceptance and love, making independent decisions, loneliness and so on. These areas are related to limiting beliefs. Talk to someone about the things that bother you. It’s best to talk to a professional but your friends and family can help too.

Think about all the times you felt great. Remember what it was like feel the emotions, remember the things you saw, heard, smelled and so on. Make an image of the good times you had, make the colors of the image bright and vivid. Make the image bigger and bigger and notice how you feel about it. Play with it until you feel wonderful. Our thoughts influence our emotions, If you have a negative sentence that you keep repeating in your mind simply replace it with something short and positive.

8 Obstacles To Using The Law Of Attraction Successfully

shimon — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 18:38:17 +0000

Have you ever tried to use the law of attraction to achieve something in your life? Have you ever failed?

Some people when they fail decide that “it is all just a big scam” or that they just weren’t “positive” enough. In this post I want to share eight impediments to using the law of attraction successfully.

By knowing the obstacles we can avoid them and deal with them if needed, it also provides another reason for the failure.

1 Negative thoughts- these are all the thoughts that negate the idea of the achievement. Let’s say you want a promotion at work or a better paying job , negative thoughts would be thinking about all the reasons why you won’t achieve it: The economy is in recession, your coworkers have a better connection with the boss, you don’t always succeed at your job and so on.

Clearly this way of thinking is the exact opposite of what you should be doing- thinking about all the reasons why you will succeed. It doesn’t matter what you think the “reality” is.

For example let’s take the last argument- you don’t always succeed at your job, think about all the managers you (If it didn’t happen to you it probably happened to one of your friends.) had who were less qualified then you. The “reality” is fluid it constantly changes according to your point of view. When you know you deserve it you’ll achieve it.

2 You’re not motivated enough- If I tell you that you have one year to make a million dollar or else I’ll kill you or your family and you can’t go to the cops will you achieve it? This is a radical example yet it shows that with the right amount of motivation you can achieve anything.

Find what motivates you, if for instance you want a luxury car go to the dealership and ask them to test drive it. Feel what it will be like when you’ll own such a car. Collect pictures of it and anything that will make you feel that you own it. Remind yourself why you want it. There are countless resources for motivation: books, seminars ,audio cassettes use them daily.

People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing -- that’s why we recommend it daily. — Zig Ziglar

3Patience- Although you create your reality with your thoughts and emotions, it takes time. How much time? That depends on the ratio between beneficial and negative thoughts and upon your skills. It’s a simple math, the more positive thoughts believing that it is possible for you the quicker it will be achieved.

Another example is if you are working on changing your personality (e.g. become braver or more assertive) then you have to give yourself time to change.

4 Attachment- The word attachment means that you fear you’ll fail. You’re attached to the outcome rather than release it to the universe. The attachment doesn’t have to be a word or a phrase you say to yourself, sometimes it is just a feeling, a fear that you won’t achieve your desired outcome.

To release it remember that it is your job to decide what it is you want and do whatever you can to achieve it, after that the universe will do the rest.

5Doing nothing- It is not enough to visualize your desired outcome or to repeat affirmations. You have to help god help you. If you want to lose weight and you don’t eat less or exercise you’ll probably won’t lose weight. All the techniques should supplement they aren’t the main course of action. If it is difficult try a mentor or a coach someone that achieved it already or someone that will motivate you and give you tools to succeed.

In this video Will Smith talks about the law of attraction and about the importance of work.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pke9gEZfJXk

6Beliefs- Sometimes your believes get in the way of your outcome. For instance if you want to be rich but you believe that all rich people are greedy or that “money doesn’t grow on trees” and so on then even if you’ll make a lot of money you’ll find ways to get rid of it even quicker, after all you don’t want to be greedy right? You’ll need to work on those believes before you’ll see progress.

You can work on your beliefs on your own or use a professional.

7Asking god- Believe it or not asking god isn’t a good idea because:
a) He/she already knows what you want.
b) By asking you’re declaring that you don’t create your reality after all if you did you wouldn’t ask god for help right?
c) You implant the idea that you don’t have the things you ask for now.

What you can do is to feel and think as if the things you want are already present in your life. Don’t try to lie to yourself, if you’re trying to lose weight and you can’t say to yourself that you’re thin then at least you can say that you’re becoming thinner every day. Say it with emotion, really feel it and believe it.

8 Not wanting it enough- All the aforementioned impediments really come down to this one. All the obstacles are really excuses. If right now you’ll decide that you’re going to dedicate your life to become rich and really focus solely on this: you will go to seminars to get a financial education, you’ll find a mentor, you’ll work on your people skills etc, You will become rich without a doubt.

Yes it requires a sacrifice, you’ll probably have to watch less TV and maybe see your friends less often. So is it worth it? Your answer will determine your success.

Are you feeling lucky?

shimon — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 21:33:04 +0000

When people achieve success some say that they are lucky, on the other hand if they fail or experience “negative” situations some say that they are misfortunate.
However in both cases luck has nothing to do with it. To say that they are lucky or unlucky is to rob them of their power, make them a hapless victim that depends on the circumstances.

In my previous post I wrote about the electromagnetic field around us that some call the aura. According to the Wikipedia definition It affects the behavior of charged objects in the vicinity of the field and extends indefinitely throughout space.

The matrix

Our thoughts are pure energy they can even be measured with the right equipment. This energy extends indefinitely throughout space and affects everything around it. The energy vibrates at different speeds depending on your thoughts,words,feelings and actions. Everyone contributes to this energy and so the space between us is full of it

A complex matrix that contains all the energys is created. This matrix is the combined energy field that we live in and it affects everything including everyone that created it. Every new energy that is sent influences the field which influences the people that sent the energy and it goes like this forever. This is easily demonstrated if for instance you enter a room and you can feel the tension in the air or you buy a car and suddenly you see that exact model everywhere you go.

Everyone on earth and in the universe emits energy to every direction. The energy is mixed with the other energys and creates complex patterns. In this matrix we send messages and other influences to each other.

The matrix affects everything, it creates wars, sickness, poverty or health, peace and wealth depending on the energy. The energy we emit is constantly interacting with everything else. As we get closer to something the energy between us intensify as we get farther from it the energy refines, however it’s never separated. There is a point between yourself and everything that exists, at this point the energys meet and create a third energy which is less dense.

the energys in the matrix are attracted to each other, its called the law of attraction. According to the law everything attracts what’s similar to it. Thoughts of certain kind attract thoughts of the same kind along the matrix. When enough of that energy is combined the vibrations become heavier, they slow down and some of it materializes. Thoughts can create physical form and when a lot of people think the same there is a very high probability that they will create a certain reality.

Global awareness of some kind can influence the entire world or only the range where these collective thoughts are powerful. The matrix pulls itself into itself, it pulls energy of some kind to energys of the same kind and it even attracts physical objects to each other. These objects must repel each other so that they won’t merge forever and actually won’t exist in their current form. That’s why although we are attracted to each other we eventually pull back.

Levels of creation

In life we always have three options:
1) To let our uncontrolled thoughts create our reality.
2) To let our aware thoughts create our reality.
3) To let global awareness create our reality.
We also create from three different levels: our consciousness, our subconscious and what can be called the superconscious. The superconscious is the consciousness of the soul.

rarely we create from all three simultaneously, usually we do it from one or two at a time. The three levels help explain what seem to be a contradiction. On the one hand we create our reality, all of it including our death. There is no such thing as a sudden death. On the other hand we don’t want what we call negative events in our lives.

We all know stories of healthy vibrant people, who were full of life and yet they died. If you will ask their friends they will tell you that they didn’t want to die, however God doesn’t decide when we will die. He lets us do that. God gave us free choice and the power to create our reality, he will not interfere even if our choices seem harmful.

We want to die when we achieved everything we came to achieve in this lifetime using this body. The decision to die comes from the superconscious level. Rarely we are conscious of it.

What we call negative events usually come from the subconscious and superconscious. There are no negative events every event servers our higher purpose which is to experience life and to experience ourselves in the highest form possible. Luck doesn’t exist and there are no coincidences, we create our own luck. Every experience helps our development. Sometimes in order to experience what you want you have to experience what you don’t want.

Do What’s Right – Do What’s Hard

shimon — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 13:32:05 +0000

Some of the books I read talk about doing what’s easy in life. They say that if faced with an obstacle you should always seek an easier path, because there are a lot more ways to choose from than we can see.

From my experience sometimes when you are doing what’s hard you are making the biggest progress, because the experience molds you just like a bodybuilder pushing weights to mold his body. His muscles grow by pain, not excessive pain but just in the right amount.

So what’s the right amount? Like many things in life it’s something that requires balance. For instance if you come from work and you watch TV for 4 hours and then go to sleep instead of doing something that you really want like reading something beneficial or even dating if you’re single, than clearly you’re not doing enough of what’s hard.

What’s hard and what’s easy are really only definitions that we make. Objectively there are no easy or hard, what’s easy for me may be hard for you and vice versa. It all depends on how you link pain and pleasure.

Each time you do something that’s hard, you increase your options thus making yourself more flexible and therefore more powerful. The more options you have in any given situation the more powerful you become.

However sometimes what you want is way above your competence at the moment thus making it virtually impossible for you. If that’s the case then you should consider how much do you want it? In some cases there are easier alternatives that can satisfy your needs in other ways, for example if you want to be rich because you think it will give a peace of mind than what you really want is peace of mind and that can be achieved with less effort.

If however you decide that you want to achieve something and you try for a long time without results you should consider requesting help. It’s not easy to admit that we need help. For some reason we assume that we should be able to know everything and always act according to our needs.

Deep down inside you know what you should do, it is the things that frighten you the most that you should do first. I know it’s hard but there are really no alternatives. If you won’t do what’s necessary sooner or later your body will start sending signals and you will probably feel physical pain. Remember what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.