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How To Motivate Yourself To Achieve Success

shimon — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 17:39:28 +0000

We all need motivation. Without it nothing would be done. We need motivation to work, study and even to wake up in the morning. Motivation simply means the reason why we do things. In this post I want to share a few ways to motivate yourself.

Motivation at work

Until you’ll find your dream job every other job usually starts the same, at first you’re excited but then with time you enter into a routine and get bored. At this point you have three options: quitting, working and suffering or motivating yourself and even excelling at your job.

Assuming you need the money and you don’t want to quit you’re left with two options. both of them have advantages and disadvantages. Lets start with working and suffering: the advantage is that you get to complain and because people love to complain you will have a common interest with your coworkers and it will be easier for you to communicate.

On the other hand you’ll suffer, you’ll be bored and look at your watch a lot. You’ll probably wont be promoted because people don’t promote mediocre workers. In addition you’ll be tired and you’ll feel that you’re wasting your time.

If you choose to motivate yourself the main disadvantage will be that you’ll need to consciously make an effort at least at the beginning to see the positive sides of your job, and of course you’ll need to find different topics to talk about with your coworkers.

On the other hand you’ll be vigorous, you’ll become interested in your job and therefore better at it which will increase your chances of promotion. In addition time will pass faster and you’ll generally feel better.

If you decide to motivate yourself, here is how you can do that:

start by remembering why you looked for a job in the first place.
Think about all the advantages that this job is giving you.
Divide your job into parts and give yourself small treats for every part you accomplished. The treats should be something you like to do like reading a book or watching TV (avoid food as a treat).
Imagine that someone is watching every step you make and you want them to have a good impression of you.

If you can’t find advantages to your job and you can’t motivate yourself, you should seriously consider finding a different job. The average person spends a lot of time at work and if you’re unhappy at your job it will affect other areas in your life including your health.

General Motivation

Do you want to know how I motivated myself to do skydiving? The answer is simple I told everyone I know that I’m going to do it. I didn’t want them to think that I’m a liar or just one of these people that talks a lot and does nothing so I had to do it. This “technique” still helps me achieve some of my goals, I use it all the time and it’s easy.

In this video Tony Robbins explains what motivates us and how we can do it better.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cpc-t-Uwv1I

So by now some of you still think “I tried to motivate myself in the past and it didn’t work.” The reason for this is conflicting goals: In this video Tony Robbins explains more about it.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=z0iFgVzXxKc

You can read more about it in my inner conflicts post.

How To Master Your Emotions To Achieve Peace Of Mind

shimon — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 20:25:52 +0000

Have you ever heard someone saying “he made me feel x” or “because of her I felt y” ? Maybe you even said it yourself. Stop for a moment and think about it, did they point a gun to your head and forced you to feel something? The truth is we and no one else are responsible for our emotions.

Have you ever felt great even though something you consider negative happened? For instance maybe it was raining and you were all soaked and you still smiled and enjoyed the moment, or maybe something you consider good happened and you still felt bad. These examples show us that we can choose our emotions and we don’t have to react to the situation or to the other person.

Change your negative emotions into positive emotions

Usually our decision to feel a certain emotion is unconscious but it doesn’t have to be that way. At first you’ll notice your emotions only after you feel them. Start by accepting your emotions and take full responsibility for them, you can’t change something until you accept it.

Think about the positive intent of the feeling. E.g. Perhaps the fear helps saving your life or gives you a feeling of safety. If you don’t know what the intent is you can use the Six-Step Reframing technique to find the positive intentions and to find alternative ways to accomplish your positive function.

Permit yourself to feel sad, frightened, angry or any emotion you consider negative. Explain yourself that it’s ok to feel that way and distinguish between the emotion and yourself. If you feel angry it doesn’t mean that you’re angry and if you feel scared it doesn’t mean you’re a coward.

Don’t try to block the emotion, instead let yourself feel it as much as you can. If you’ll stay with the emotion you’ll find peace. Notice if you’ve unpleasant feelings in the body every time you feel the emotion, if you do ask yourself what emotion lays underneath the first emotion and let yourself feel it. Keep doing it until you feel all the emotions.

Realize that you don’t feel that way all day long, there are times when you feel great. Think about all the instances when you felt bad, what do they all have in common? In most cases you’ll see that it’s related to a few areas in your life that require your attention. It can be areas like self acceptance and love, making independent decisions, loneliness and so on. These areas are related to limiting beliefs. Talk to someone about the things that bother you. It’s best to talk to a professional but your friends and family can help too.

Think about all the times you felt great. Remember what it was like feel the emotions, remember the things you saw, heard, smelled and so on. Make an image of the good times you had, make the colors of the image bright and vivid. Make the image bigger and bigger and notice how you feel about it. Play with it until you feel wonderful. Our thoughts influence our emotions, If you have a negative sentence that you keep repeating in your mind simply replace it with something short and positive.

How To Forgive Easily

shimon — Mon, 04 May 2009 14:40:57 +0000

Reincarnation and soul mate

Before entering the physical world souls organize themselves as families, groups, tribes, nations and great nations. There are seven souls in a family, seven families in a group, seven groups in a tribe and so on.

Eventually you’ll work with most of your tribe members (343 souls). However some of us (usually the teachers) will work with the nation or even the great nation (16,807 souls).

Most of the close relationships will be with souls from your group (49 souls). Each group strives for a certain cause. The cause can be courage, healing, communication and teaching, self acceptance and so on. It doesn’t mean that each soul will have the same life, but it does mean that the souls will have similar ideals and ambitions.

The soul family will work together for many life times. Each soul family will help you decide about future life times and help evaluate your accomplishments at the passed life time.

A soul mate is a soul that belongs to one of the groups(family,tribe,group, etc) and every soul that affects you. The overall influence of the soul mate on your life will always be positive even if you can’t see it.

The relationship with a soul mate will probably be challenging. That’s because every appearance of a soul mate in your life is to show you yourself, they serve as a mirror. That’s the purpose of every human relationship.

The law of attraction works in every area of our life. Every person that is present in your life is attracted to you because your vibrations match. Before every life time we make agreements with many souls. We discuss what we can offer each other.

These souls can be your father, best friend or even an enemy. For instance John has dealt with helplessness for many life times. His struggle lead him to use violence and even substance abuse. Mary on the other hand didn’t appreciate herself and always gave her power to others.

Mary and John decided to fall in love and work together to solve their problems. Because of her relationship with an alcoholic Mary will learn that she has to start making decisions that reflect her true value. John will learn that he can’t control other people because true power comes from within.

However Mary experienced many challenges in her life and eventually started to appreciate herself. In this time her vibrations changed and so she doesn’t need to meet John anymore. Maybe she’ll meet him but she won’t have an intimate relationship with him.

Forgiveness

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. — Mahatma Gandhi

At first glance what I wrote doesn’t seem related to forgiveness. However when you understand that every “negative” event in your life happened because of your vibrations (thoughts,emotions) and that every person that hurt you really did you a favor, then you understand that you don’t need to forgive anyone because they helped you achieve what you wanted.

I’m not saying that the people that hurt you did it on purpose to help you. They didn’t know they were helping you just as you didn’t know you were helping them. If you’re still not convinced I’m gonna give you two more reasons to forgive others:

1 It will improve your health because anger that stays in your body poisons it. It leads to all kind of diseases including cancer, blood problems and it can even lead to a heart condition.

2 When you decide that someone “hurts” you, you’re resisting him and therefore focusing your attention on him. The universe responds to attention. It will bring you more of the things you’re focusing on, meaning more pain. To change that you’ll need to forgive him and focus on something positive.

Some believe that it is difficult to forgive. However If you really think about it, it is difficult to stay angry for a long time because after a while you have to remind yourself why you’re angry. It requires constant energy whereas forgiving is much easier. It doesn’t mean you’ll have to forget what happened it just means that you won’t feel hurt or angry.

There is prayer that can help you forgive:

“With love and appreciation I forgive X and accept him the way god created him. I ask X forgiveness for all the negative thoughts and emotions I had towards him. With love and appreciation x forgives me.”

Replace X with the name of the person that hurt you. Say the prayer repeatedly while thinking about the people that hurt you and their actions.

8 Obstacles To Using The Law Of Attraction Successfully

shimon — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 18:38:17 +0000

Have you ever tried to use the law of attraction to achieve something in your life? Have you ever failed?

Some people when they fail decide that “it is all just a big scam” or that they just weren’t “positive” enough. In this post I want to share eight impediments to using the law of attraction successfully.

By knowing the obstacles we can avoid them and deal with them if needed, it also provides another reason for the failure.

1 Negative thoughts- these are all the thoughts that negate the idea of the achievement. Let’s say you want a promotion at work or a better paying job , negative thoughts would be thinking about all the reasons why you won’t achieve it: The economy is in recession, your coworkers have a better connection with the boss, you don’t always succeed at your job and so on.

Clearly this way of thinking is the exact opposite of what you should be doing- thinking about all the reasons why you will succeed. It doesn’t matter what you think the “reality” is.

For example let’s take the last argument- you don’t always succeed at your job, think about all the managers you (If it didn’t happen to you it probably happened to one of your friends.) had who were less qualified then you. The “reality” is fluid it constantly changes according to your point of view. When you know you deserve it you’ll achieve it.

2 You’re not motivated enough- If I tell you that you have one year to make a million dollar or else I’ll kill you or your family and you can’t go to the cops will you achieve it? This is a radical example yet it shows that with the right amount of motivation you can achieve anything.

Find what motivates you, if for instance you want a luxury car go to the dealership and ask them to test drive it. Feel what it will be like when you’ll own such a car. Collect pictures of it and anything that will make you feel that you own it. Remind yourself why you want it. There are countless resources for motivation: books, seminars ,audio cassettes use them daily.

People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing -- that’s why we recommend it daily. — Zig Ziglar

3Patience- Although you create your reality with your thoughts and emotions, it takes time. How much time? That depends on the ratio between beneficial and negative thoughts and upon your skills. It’s a simple math, the more positive thoughts believing that it is possible for you the quicker it will be achieved.

Another example is if you are working on changing your personality (e.g. become braver or more assertive) then you have to give yourself time to change.

4 Attachment- The word attachment means that you fear you’ll fail. You’re attached to the outcome rather than release it to the universe. The attachment doesn’t have to be a word or a phrase you say to yourself, sometimes it is just a feeling, a fear that you won’t achieve your desired outcome.

To release it remember that it is your job to decide what it is you want and do whatever you can to achieve it, after that the universe will do the rest.

5Doing nothing- It is not enough to visualize your desired outcome or to repeat affirmations. You have to help god help you. If you want to lose weight and you don’t eat less or exercise you’ll probably won’t lose weight. All the techniques should supplement they aren’t the main course of action. If it is difficult try a mentor or a coach someone that achieved it already or someone that will motivate you and give you tools to succeed.

In this video Will Smith talks about the law of attraction and about the importance of work.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pke9gEZfJXk

6Beliefs- Sometimes your believes get in the way of your outcome. For instance if you want to be rich but you believe that all rich people are greedy or that “money doesn’t grow on trees” and so on then even if you’ll make a lot of money you’ll find ways to get rid of it even quicker, after all you don’t want to be greedy right? You’ll need to work on those believes before you’ll see progress.

You can work on your beliefs on your own or use a professional.

7Asking god- Believe it or not asking god isn’t a good idea because:
a) He/she already knows what you want.
b) By asking you’re declaring that you don’t create your reality after all if you did you wouldn’t ask god for help right?
c) You implant the idea that you don’t have the things you ask for now.

What you can do is to feel and think as if the things you want are already present in your life. Don’t try to lie to yourself, if you’re trying to lose weight and you can’t say to yourself that you’re thin then at least you can say that you’re becoming thinner every day. Say it with emotion, really feel it and believe it.

8 Not wanting it enough- All the aforementioned impediments really come down to this one. All the obstacles are really excuses. If right now you’ll decide that you’re going to dedicate your life to become rich and really focus solely on this: you will go to seminars to get a financial education, you’ll find a mentor, you’ll work on your people skills etc, You will become rich without a doubt.

Yes it requires a sacrifice, you’ll probably have to watch less TV and maybe see your friends less often. So is it worth it? Your answer will determine your success.