Some people when they fail decide that “it is all just a big scam” or that they just weren’t “positive” enough. In this post I want to share eight impediments to using the law of attraction successfully.

By knowing the obstacles we can avoid them and deal with them if needed, it also provides another reason for the failure.

1 Negative thoughts- these are all the thoughts that negate the idea of the achievement. Let’s say you want a promotion at work or a better paying job , negative thoughts would be thinking about all the reasons why you won’t achieve it: The economy is in recession, your coworkers have a better connection with the boss, you don’t always succeed at your job and so on.

Clearly this way of thinking is the exact opposite of what you should be doing- thinking about all the reasons why you will succeed. It doesn’t matter what you think the “reality” is.

For example let’s take the last argument- you don’t always succeed at your job, think about all the managers you (If it didn’t happen to you it probably happened to one of your friends.) had who were less qualified then you. The “reality” is fluid it constantly changes according to your point of view. When you know you deserve it you’ll achieve it.

2 You’re not motivated enough- If I tell you that you have one year to make a million dollar or else I’ll kill you or your family and you can’t go to the cops will you achieve it? This is a radical example yet it shows that with the right amount of motivation you can achieve anything.

Find what motivates you, if for instance you want a luxury car go to the dealership and ask them to test drive it. Feel what it will be like when you’ll own such a car. Collect pictures of it and anything that will make you feel that you own it. Remind yourself why you want it. There are countless resources for motivation: books, seminars ,audio cassettes use them daily.

People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing -- that’s why we recommend it daily. — Zig Ziglar

3Patience- Although you create your reality with your thoughts and emotions, it takes time. How much time? That depends on the ratio between beneficial and negative thoughts and upon your skills. It’s a simple math, the more positive thoughts believing that it is possible for you the quicker it will be achieved.

Another example is if you are working on changing your personality (e.g. become braver or more assertive) then you have to give yourself time to change.

4 Attachment- The word attachment means that you fear you’ll fail. You’re attached to the outcome rather than release it to the universe. The attachment doesn’t have to be a word or a phrase you say to yourself, sometimes it is just a feeling, a fear that you won’t achieve your desired outcome.

To release it remember that it is your job to decide what it is you want and do whatever you can to achieve it, after that the universe will do the rest.

5Doing nothing- It is not enough to visualize your desired outcome or to repeat affirmations. You have to help god help you. If you want to lose weight and you don’t eat less or exercise you’ll probably won’t lose weight. All the techniques should supplement they aren’t the main course of action. If it is difficult try a mentor or a coach someone that achieved it already or someone that will motivate you and give you tools to succeed.

In this video Will Smith talks about the law of attraction and about the importance of work.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pke9gEZfJXk

6Beliefs- Sometimes your believes get in the way of your outcome. For instance if you want to be rich but you believe that all rich people are greedy or that “money doesn’t grow on trees” and so on then even if you’ll make a lot of money you’ll find ways to get rid of it even quicker, after all you don’t want to be greedy right? You’ll need to work on those believes before you’ll see progress.

You can work on your beliefs on your own or use a professional.

7Asking god- Believe it or not asking god isn’t a good idea because:
a) He/she already knows what you want.
b) By asking you’re declaring that you don’t create your reality after all if you did you wouldn’t ask god for help right?
c) You implant the idea that you don’t have the things you ask for now.

What you can do is to feel and think as if the things you want are already present in your life. Don’t try to lie to yourself, if you’re trying to lose weight and you can’t say to yourself that you’re thin then at least you can say that you’re becoming thinner every day. Say it with emotion, really feel it and believe it.

8 Not wanting it enough- All the aforementioned impediments really come down to this one. All the obstacles are really excuses. If right now you’ll decide that you’re going to dedicate your life to become rich and really focus solely on this: you will go to seminars to get a financial education, you’ll find a mentor, you’ll work on your people skills etc, You will become rich without a doubt.

Yes it requires a sacrifice, you’ll probably have to watch less TV and maybe see your friends less often. So is it worth it? Your answer will determine your success.

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Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. watch your character; it becomes your destiny. — Frank Outlaw

We use words all the time, we use them to convey our ideas to other people and influence them. Countless leaders used words to motivate people and to ultimately cause them to behave in a certain way. What we aren’t always aware of is that words are influencing us the moment we utter them.

Did you know that Eskimos have more then one word to describe snow? It is believed that snow plays a bigger part in their lives, they have more experiences regarding it and therefore more words to describe it. You can learn a lot just from listening to someone else talk. For example if he uses the word fear or anxiety a lot it means that it’s probably a big part of his experience.

We all know how changing our job title to something like manager can improve our feelings even if we do the same job and earn the same salary. The only thing changed was the name that gave us a feeling of importance. When we feel better we are likely to preform better.

Words created a lot of our beliefs and they can also reveal them. For instance if someone says “I’m that way because…” or “if you go out without a coat you’ll catch a cold” they’re expressing their beliefs. Lets do a little experiment, say the word fear for 30 seconds. How do you feel? Are you afraid? To cancel the negative effect say the word love for a minute.

This exercise shows us that by changing our words we can instantly change how we feel and thus change how we act. I want to clarify that words just like emotions are an energy form they aren’t good or bad, However some words will assist you to achieve what you desire and others won’t.

Different people use different words to describe the same situations and therefore they experience different emotions which causes them to act differently. What changed wasn’t the event but rather the words they used.

When we use a certain word it becomes our experience even if it wasn’t at the beginning. We categorize our emotions to ease our thinking process, However by doing so we force the category on the emotion. For example if you felt uncomfortable and you called it fear it will become fear.

One of the reasons that people become similar to their friends and people that they spend a lot of time with is because they begin to use their friends words. Moreover If you don’t have a way of representing something then you can’t experience it. In some native American cultures there isn’t a word for lying, The concept simply doesn’t exist. As a result they never lie.

Words to use

In order to change our lives we need to know what words to use instead of the “negative” ones. In addition just like some of the native Americans we need to completely omit certain words from our vocabulary.

Instead of I hate something use I prefer something else. Instead of I fear something use I feel uncomfortable or excited when this happens. Instead of saying I’m angry say I’m slightly bothered. When someone asks you how do you feel or how do you do instead of saying OK you can say excellent or wonderful, That will surely change how you feel.

Instead of saying it stinks say it’s a little smelly. Instead of disappointment use delay. Instead of lonely use available. Instead of failure say feedback or learning. Instead of depression say not really at my peak.

These are just some of the examples you can use. Make it a game, play with it and try to come up with funny and positive alternatives. It will help you moderate your negative feelings and increase the positive. This doesn’t mean that you will never feel anger or fear, these emotions are useful in certain situations. It means that anger and fear won’t be your first choice.

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Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense. — Buddha

A friend of mine (who I’ll call John) recently told me an interesting story. He told me that he has a friend (who I’ll call Adam) that isn’t smart and is ugly. John and Adam would go out and Adam showed him gorgeous women and told him that he would date them. Sure enough by the end of the evening he did.

Once John asked him how does he do it. Adam said that he doesn’t have a specific technique and that the reason he is doing so well is that he is smart and handsome. This story illustrates the power of beliefs. Beliefs are really our opinions about the reality. I wrote a lot about beliefs in one of my previous posts called Mastering your beliefs- Empowering yourself . In that post I described how beliefs influence us and a few ways to change them.

When you know how to change your beliefs, what’s left is to find worthwhile beliefs. In this post I want to share seven beneficial beliefs that will make you happier.

1The first believe is quite simple and self explanatory, it’s the aforementioned quote. The first belief recognizes you as the ultimate authority in your life and as such you shouldn’t accept beliefs that you don’t agree with, even if they come form a person who you consider as an authority figure.

2 The reality as we see it doesn’t exist. We think that we see with our eyes when in fact we see with our brain. Our brain constructs an image from the input it gets from the eyes. That is the reason why the brain can’t differentiate between something that you vividly imagined for a long enough period of time and something that actually happened.

This means that you can fake it until you make it.
Another example is the ultraviolet and infrared rays that exist beyond the visible light spectrum. These examples demonstrate that there is a lot more happening then we can see, hear, taste, smell or touch.

According to quantum physics the observer affects the observed reality, moreover all the possibilities exist until they are observed. Therefore we create our reality by using our intentions and thoughts. This short video explains more about quantum physics and it’s relevance.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=x_tNzeouHC4

3 We are all one literally it’s not just a figure of speech. Our soul doesn’t reside in the body, The body resides in the soul. The soul is much bigger than the body. There isn’t a place where one soul ends and another begins. Just like there is only one air in a house but the air can seem different, the air in the kitchen can smell differently than the air in the bedroom.

When you’ll truly believe that:
You will no longer want to harm anyone because you will know that if you harm another person you are really hurting yourself.
You will share more because what you give others you are really giving yourself.

It isn’t a coincidence that we all want the same: love, happiness, freedom, health, etc. We just believe that a different path will take us there.

4 Money comes from having a good idea and following it. You don’t need a lot of money to make money. There are opportunities that require very little sums of money, like the stock market or building a successful website. It doesn’t matter which path you’ll take as long as you persevere.

5 There is enough, enough food, water, love, jobs, prosperity etc. We just need to share what we have. If everyone will share no one will feel that he lacks something. The crime rate will plunge because people will no longer be forced to steal in order to exist. When the condition of the poor will get better so will the condition of the rich, because they will have more people to trade with.

However in order for this to happen people need to believe that there is enough and they need to know that they can create more of everything with their thoughts. You can’t give to another if you don’t think that you have enough, nor should you. If you genuinely give to another person you’re conveying to your subconscious that you have enough and therefore you will have even more.
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This too shall pass. Truly happy people know that no matter what will happen they can withstand it. They don’t ascribe excessive meaning to events. A good question to ask yourself about a situation is how will you feel about it in one year, 5 years, 10,50 years? If the answer is you won’t care chances are that it doesn’t really matter. Too many people focus on the unimportant things in life. Focusing on what matters will save you a lot of concern and probably will improve your health.
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There is always something you can do, sometimes it’s to change your attitude. Have you ever heard someone complaining that they are just that type of person? and always have been? Thoughts like I’m always late or I’m just not smart, handsome, rich, assertive, confident enough aren’t constructive and they are wrong! If the reality as we see it doesn’t exist and we create our reality with our thoughts then we can change everything. Note that some changes may require a professional help.

However sometimes we are born with handicaps, usually we decide to be born like this in order to teach ourselves a higher lesson like self acceptance and to inspire others. In these cases it’s best to change our attitude. In other words to change how we perceive our handicap. There are a lot of examples of famous people that achieved a lot despite of their disabilities.

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1. Mastering your beliefs- Empowering yourself
2. 8 Obstacles To Using The Law Of Attraction Successfully
3. The Secret Exposed – Create your Reality.

We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. — Anais Nin

Each of us operates out of a model of the world, a map if you like. We often forget that the map is not the territory and sometimes the map isn’t even accurate.

We have global beliefs like the belief that after periods of economic prosperity there must be a period of economic depression. Our “experts” predict that the situation won’t last. Such thoughts stem from the belief that everything which is good is too good to be true; They stem from beliefs in lack, struggle and poverty.

The opposite is also true. Once the situation is bad and the unemployment is at it’s peak, some say that it can’t get any worse and it’s bound to be better.

In both situations the forecasts are realized not because they are true but because that’s what the masses believe. We shape our reality with our beliefs and then we forget we did it. It’s important to concentrate on the things we want rather then the things we don’t because every thought creates our reality.

Good and bad

Furthermore the concept of good and evil can be explained with the same principles.
First of all no one is inherently evil. There are two basic emotions that contain all the other, love and fear. Fear creates separation and it can cause the personality to split into a situation where it seems that it is separated from god. However the fear is an illusion. Everything exists inside god even things we consider as bad, and therefore there can’t be a struggle between good and bad.

There is a reason for every act we do. Ask yourself what kind of feelings and beliefs does an “evil” person has? Bad people are people with a distorted point of view, a wrong map. They usually believe that they are helpless and that they aren’t loved. Once we believe in something our mind blocks any information that can contradict it. The truth is they are in pain even if they don’t show it. This is why these people are the ones needing the most love and affection. Of course that doesn’t mean that they don’t need to assume responsibility for their actions.

Judging

This is one of the reasons why you shouldn’t judge other people. However the major reason isn’t because it’s the spiritual thing to do, it’s because you deny your power to create with every judgment you make.

When you judge you declare that there is right and wrong; and when you declare it you declare that you don’t have freedom of choice because if something is wrong then you can’t choose it. when you state that you don’t have freedom of choice you are actually saying that you aren’t the creator of your reality and that someone else must be the creator. When you declare it you deny your power.

When you judge others it means that you believe that they can influence your reality somehow, it means that you need to invest energy and resist the things that you believe can hurt you or influence you. Everything you aren’t allowing in others you are not allowing yourself, and it’s related to a belief that limits you in some way. every judgment is related to your lack of love towards yourself, and it’s not related at all to the person or event your judging.

There is an exercise the demonstrates it and it can help you stop judging. Write on piece of paper things you don’t like about others or generally, like for instance greed, dishonesty, violence etc. Be completely honest with yourself.

Choose the reservations that seem the most important, and ask yourself why you don’t like it. After your answer keep asking why until you reach the source of your judgment. The source will be limiting believes like: I’m not loved, I’m helpless, I’m not allowed, there isn’t enough, I’m not good enough, I don’t deserve it, etc.

Once you know your limiting beliefs you can change them, simply understand they are not the truth, they are an incorrect part of your map.

Here is another great way to change limiting beliefs.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=8KBXGjfo7II

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