Written on August 1st, 2009 at 11:25 pm by shimon

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Peace Of MindHave you ever heard someone saying “he made me feel x” or “because of her I felt y” ? Maybe you even said it yourself. Stop for a moment and think about it, did they point a gun to your head and forced you to feel something? The truth is we and no one else are responsible for our emotions.

Have you ever felt great even though something you consider negative happened? For instance maybe it was raining and you were all soaked and you still smiled and enjoyed the moment, or maybe something you consider good happened and you still felt bad. These examples show us that we can choose our emotions and we don’t have to react to the situation or to the other person.

Change your negative emotions into positive emotions

Usually our decision to feel a certain emotion is unconscious but it doesn’t have to be that way. At first you’ll notice your emotions only after you feel them. Start by accepting your emotions and take full responsibility for them, you can’t change something until you accept it.

Think about the positive intent of the feeling. E.g. Perhaps the fear helps saving your life or gives you a feeling of safety. If you don’t know what the intent is you can use the Six-Step Reframing technique to find the positive intentions and to find alternative ways to accomplish your positive function.

Permit yourself to feel sad, frightened, angry or any emotion you consider negative. Explain yourself that it’s ok to feel that way and distinguish between the emotion and yourself. If you feel angry it doesn’t mean that  you’re angry and if you feel scared it doesn’t mean you’re a coward.

Don’t try to block the emotion, instead let yourself feel it as much as you can. If you’ll stay with the emotion you’ll find peace. Notice if you’ve unpleasant feelings in the body every time you feel the emotion, if you do ask yourself what emotion lays underneath the first emotion and let yourself feel it. Keep doing it until you feel all the emotions.

Realize that you don’t feel that way all day long, there are times when you feel great. Think about all the instances when you felt bad, what do they all have in common? In most cases you’ll see that it’s related to a few areas in your life that require your attention. It can be areas like self acceptance and love, making independent decisions, loneliness and so on. These areas are related to limiting beliefs. Talk to someone about the things that bother you. It’s best to talk to a professional but your friends and family can help too.

Think about all the times you felt great. Remember what it was like feel the emotions, remember the things you saw, heard, smelled and so on. Make an image of the good times you had, make the colors of the image bright and vivid. Make the image bigger and bigger and notice how you feel about it. Play with it until you feel wonderful. Our thoughts influence our emotions, If you have a negative sentence that you keep repeating in your mind simply replace it with something short and positive.

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16 Responses to “How To Master Your Emotions To Achieve Peace Of Mind”


  1. PJ

    12 months ago

    i totally agree with this post. i try to live that way every day. i believe that all of our feelings are valid and the only way to move through them is to accept them, all of them. very good post.
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    • shimon

      12 months ago

      Hi PJ thanks for stopping by.

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  2. Necklaces

    12 months ago

    truly loved the article added to my favourites

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    • shimon

      12 months ago

      Thanks I’m glad you like it.

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  3. Bunker

    12 months ago

    Hmm… I read blogs on a similar topic, but i never visited your blog. I added it to favorites and i’ll be your constant reader.

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    • shimon

      12 months ago

      Hi Bunker nice to meet you.

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  4. babafisa

    12 months ago

    WoW! Thank you very much for that enlightening article

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    • shimon

      12 months ago

      Hi Babafisa thanks for reading.

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  5. hotspot shield lauch

    11 months ago

    Very enjoyed this! Well done!

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  6. Crasty

    11 months ago

    I read a few topics. I respect your work and added blog to favorites.

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  7. Nick Ejilah

    10 months ago

    Learned so much from your work. I enjoyed reading it and will surely see more of your work soon.

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    • shimon

      9 months ago

      Thanks Nick for your kind words.

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  8. Thank you for your informative post shimon. How you think is everything, you let negatives in, negativity can come out if you let it. It is always good to try to surround yourself with positive influences, whether it is people, places, or things. I practice tai chi and qi gong to help keep me centered, cycle for exercise, and always try to not dwell on anything in the past…always move forward. All that matters is right now and what you are going to do with it. Dont let people take your dreams away or puke in your ear. Mind, body, spirit – we are all energy, focus on the positive energy!
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  9. I agree with you wholeheartedly. Whatever happens in our life, we have the choice of our reactions. Great post :)
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  10. Ben Tien

    3 months ago

    Hi Shimon, good article about emation.. For some people it’s hard to control their emotion, becauise they think that their emotions are not in their control. They believe that they are slaves to their emotions and that they are just reacting to the events of their lives.

    It’s very important to us to know that we can deal with this emotion right now. The simplest, most powerful and quickest way to handle an emotion is to recall an instance in the past when you felt a similar emotion and recognize that you had successfully handled it before.
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