How To Utilize The Power Of Words

37 Comments 06 November 2008

Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. watch your character; it becomes your destiny. — Frank Outlaw

words-1We use words all the time, we use them to convey our ideas to other people and influence them. Countless leaders used words to motivate people and to ultimately cause them to behave in a certain way. What we aren’t always aware of is that words are influencing us the moment we utter them.

Did you know that Eskimos have more then one word to describe snow? It is believed that snow plays a bigger part in their lives, they have more experiences regarding it and therefore more words to describe it. You can learn a lot just from listening to someone else talk. For example if he uses the word fear or anxiety a lot it means that it’s probably a big part of his experience.

We all know how changing our job title to something like manager can improve our feelings even if we do the same job and earn the same salary. The only thing changed was the name that gave us a feeling of importance. When we feel better we are likely to preform better.

Words created a lot of our beliefs and they can also reveal them. For instance if someone says “I’m that way because…” or “if you go out without a coat you’ll catch a cold” they’re expressing their beliefs. Lets do a little experiment, say the word fear for 30 seconds. How do you feel? Are you afraid? To cancel the negative effect say the word love for a minute.

This exercise shows us that by changing our words we can instantly change how we feel and thus change how we act. I want to clarify that words just like emotions are an energy form they aren’t good or bad, However some words will assist you to achieve what you desire and others won’t.

Different people use different words to describe the same situations and therefore they experience different emotions which causes them to act differently. What changed wasn’t the event but rather the words they used.

When we use a certain word it becomes our experience even if it wasn’t at the beginning. We categorize our emotions to ease our thinking process, However by doing so we force the category on the emotion. For example if you felt uncomfortable and you called it fear it will become fear.

One of the reasons that people become similar to their friends and people that they spend a lot of time with is because they begin to use their friends words. Moreover If you don’t have a way of representing something then you can’t experience it. In some native American cultures there isn’t a word for lying, The concept simply doesn’t exist. As a result they never lie.

Words to use

In order to change our lives we need to know what words to use instead of the “negative” ones. In addition just like some of the native Americans we need to completely omit certain words from our vocabulary.

Instead of I hate something use I prefer something else. Instead of I fear something use I feel uncomfortable or excited when this happens. Instead of saying I’m angry say I’m slightly bothered. When someone asks you how do you feel or how do you do instead of saying OK you can say excellent or wonderful, That will surely change how you feel.

Instead of saying it stinks say it’s a little smelly. Instead of disappointment use delay. Instead of lonely use available. Instead of failure say feedback or learning. Instead of depression say not really at my peak.

These are just some of the examples you can use. Make it a game, play with it and try to come up with funny and positive alternatives. It will help you moderate your negative feelings and increase the positive. This doesn’t mean that you will never feel anger or fear, these emotions are useful in certain situations. It means that anger and fear won’t be your first choice.

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  1. Fatherlyours says:

    Great Site. Very inspiring to read. I’ll recommend this site to my children. God Bless.

  2. shimon says:

    Thank you Fatherlyours, I’m glad you find it useful.

  3. *lynne* says:

    Ever since I read Chapter/Habit #1 of Covey’s “Seven Habits of Highly Successful People”, I have been a lot more aware of the power of words, of recognising a victim’s mindset and changing it around by changing what you say, and thus changing your perspective, and how you react. It was eye- (and mind-) opening!

    *lynne*s last blog post..a rambling review of The Legend of the Seeker

  4. shimon says:

    Hey lynne, thank you for commenting. I love Covey’s book, it’s full of wisdom.

  5. janejane says:

    Very inspiring message… but sometimes the words that you can’t utter are those words that you mean the most. :)

    janejanes last blog post..How To Avoid Bankruptcy

  6. shimon says:

    Hey janejane,thanks for stopping by. The words you don’t utter stay as your thoughts. In my opinion you can say whatever you want it is just a matter of finding the right time and the right person. If you really want to say something I think you should because you will regret not saying it later.

  7. What a wonderful post. You have expressed yourself well and I hope that many get to read this (I’ll green thumb stumble it and link to it as well).
    Words are for helping and healing and I am grateful that I can use my words to help others.

    Megan from Imaginifs last blog post..Talk Doctors are reforming in Cairns

  8. shimon says:

    Thanks Megan.I agree the best use of words is to heal and help people. I’ve just visited your blog and it’s full of easy and practical advice, I love it.

  9. really great post..and love your site ,really useful and informative

    risingthinkers last blog post..how to set goals

  10. Monica says:

    Your introduction quote… one of my all-time favorites!! Beautifully written post. Being new to blogging, I have to say, I feel like I’ve been given an amazing, priceless gift… The wisdom of so many wise, spiritual and giving people. I am very thankful to have stumbled upon your blog and many others like yours.

    Looking forward to reading more :)
    Monica

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  11. shimon says:

    Hey risingthinker and Monica. Thank you for stopping by and for your kind words.

  12. Dwayne says:

    A very good post, makes me think of the choice of words I use all the time. And trust me, I need to change quite a few of them. I really like you site here, forgive me for not commenting that often. I have about a hundred blogs that I read daily and it is hard to comment on all of them. Keep up the good work.

    Dwaynes last blog post..Ramblings

  13. YUWAB says:

    Words are so important, but can take such a conscious effort to change. I believe that it is important to think about the words we use when speaking to loved ones. No matter how much we are sarcastic or joking, negative words must have an effect.

  14. shimon says:

    Thanks Dwayne and YUWAB.Changing our words requires our attention but it shouldn’t be an effort, even if you occasionally use words that you don’t want to. Simply change them to positive words. Don’t be so hard on your self it takes time to change our habits.

  15. Hicham says:

    If only people understand the power of the word they would have thought twice before telling it because once you said/write it; you’ve no control over it again!

    Excellent post indeed :)

  16. shimon says:

    Hey Hicham, thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  17. Tomas says:

    Wow… Thank you!

    I watched my thoughts and thank you came out of itself while reading you. So I’m dropping my entrecard now. The above is just inescapable and therefore I’m doubly grateful.
    The reading of your post made my inner critic burn with gratitude – changed the comments to thanksgiving – these actions will mold my character and thus my life will be transformed too. Thank you: your site is just the magical wand.

  18. shimon says:

    Hi Tomas,you’re welcome and thank you for the kind words.

  19. Hi,
    I have posted an award for you on my blog,
    Take Care,
    Janet:)

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  20. shimon says:

    Wow thank you Janet Gardner I’m honored and grateful.

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    thank you and more power…

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  22. rebecca says:

    Very good post, great ideas.
    Thoughts become things…our words reflect our beliefs.
    I sent you a Lemonaid award, if you’d like to check it out go to my blog, I’ve linked back to you also.

  23. Excellent content and style…keep up the good work!

  24. shimon says:

    Rebecca thank you for the award, I really like your blog.

    Simple Meditation thank you for your kind words.

  25. Well,

    The segment in which you proposed alternative words for negative ones, sounded quite euphemistic to me.

    Bye!

  26. shimon says:

    Hey Dérico Filho. You’re right it is a euphemistic way to describe the “negative” words. However it doesn’t matter, what matters is that it works.

  27. Tomas says:

    Wow, what a truth was revealed here. Thank you. I enjoyed your article greatly.
    Words are like colors and thus the ultimate picture is defined by the palette one have. Therefore the black paints are never used in our art therapy club (by the way, the club is located in the hospital for the people with the psychiatric disorders…) Consequently the pictures share love and joy radiates through the artworks of Modus Vivendi http://trustlight.blogspot.com/

    I’m deeply convince that each of us should rewrite your wonderful article into his personal notebook. Thanks again.

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  28. Tomas says:

    Thanks once again. Your post follows me wherever I go. The article helps to discipline my tongue and thus guards my thoughts. Just the miracles happen when we consciously choose the words on our road.

    Tomass last blog post..feelings were running high

  29. shimon says:

    Thank you Tomas, I’m glad you find it useful and I love your blogs.

  30. Glad I found this site. Excellent content here – keep up the good work!

  31. Vanessa says:

    Very nice post. I agree with you totally. The words we use directly affect our lives. Thank you for this post.

    Vanessas last blog post..Building Belief with Mind Movies

  32. tito says:

    awesome site brotha

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  34. Tomas says:

    Dear Shimon,
    Thank you for the wonderful article. I was proud of linking my http://candleday.wordpress.com/ to your great blog. I hope you enjoy my pictures too
    You said … If you don’t have a way of representing something then you can’t experience it.
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  35. Hmm that was weird, my comment obtained eaten. Anyway I wanted to say that it’s good to realize that someone else also mentioned this as I had trouble finding the exact same info elsewhere. This was the first place that told me the answer. Many thanks.

  36. Great site! The powerful lesson I’ve learned regarding “words” was from the book The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz. Since adapting the agreement to “be impeccable with your word” my life has changed. The integrity of word usage both in thinking and speaking aligns my actions and keeps me “in check.” Ironically, words are of little concern when praying. God interprets what is in your heart, not what you speak.
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