Comments on: Do What’s Right – Do What’s Hard http://www.superenlightme.com/do-whats-hard Practical Ideas To Improve Your Life Sat, 17 Jul 2010 17:00:56 +0300 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: shimon http://www.superenlightme.com/do-whats-hard/comment-page-1#comment-452 shimon Tue, 22 Sep 2009 00:07:46 +0000 http://www.superenlightme.com/?p=136#comment-452 Thanks Isabel, I'm glad you like it. Thanks Isabel, I’m glad you like it.

]]> By: Isabel http://www.superenlightme.com/do-whats-hard/comment-page-1#comment-451 Isabel Mon, 21 Sep 2009 22:20:26 +0000 http://www.superenlightme.com/?p=136#comment-451 Thank you for the article. Really useful and I will share it with my client. http://www.dcvacounseling-psychotherapy.com .-= Isabel´s last blog ..<a href="http://onlinecounselingandeverydaylife.com/?p=696" rel="nofollow">Loneliness or Solitude</a> =-. Thank you for the article. Really useful and I will share it with my client.

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]]> By: shimon http://www.superenlightme.com/do-whats-hard/comment-page-1#comment-449 shimon Sun, 20 Sep 2009 21:46:56 +0000 http://www.superenlightme.com/?p=136#comment-449 Hi Patrick, Thank you I really enjoyed reading your comment. I think you're right sometimes we know what we should do and sometimes we don't. In this article I'm talking about the times we <strong>do know</strong>. If for example you're a student at a university and you've two options study for your exams or watch t.v and you choose the latter because you really want to watch t.v that is an acceptable choice but a better choice would be to study <strong>assuming you want</strong> to stay at the university. In this case it's better to make an effort in order to bear fruits in the future. Hi Patrick,

Thank you I really enjoyed reading your comment. I think you’re right sometimes we know what we should do and sometimes we don’t. In this article I’m talking about the times we do know.

If for example you’re a student at a university and you’ve two options study for your exams or watch t.v and you choose the latter because you really want to watch t.v that is an acceptable choice but a better choice would be to study assuming you want to stay at the university. In this case it’s better to make an effort in order to bear fruits in the future.

]]> By: Patrick Dieter, BA, CDP, CADC II http://www.superenlightme.com/do-whats-hard/comment-page-1#comment-448 Patrick Dieter, BA, CDP, CADC II Sun, 20 Sep 2009 20:39:17 +0000 http://www.superenlightme.com/?p=136#comment-448 I agree that pushing through resistance has its place in personal growth. I disagree that we all know what we "should" do. The word "should", in my opinion, is possibly the filthiest, dirtiest curse word in the English language. It ALWAYS means that we are trying to look good, or pass muster for someone else's idea of what we ought to be. This is fundamentally a disconnect from one's true desires. Fact is, if I come home from work and flip on the TV, I did NOT really want to read a book. I might have believed that I "should" read a book because it is "good for me" and I very probably have enjoyed reading books on occasion in the past. I probably believed this because I heard from a lot of other people that reading books is somehow better than watching TV. In working with addicts, it is very important to reach this level of honesty. If an addict cannot acknowledge that they used drugs because they wanted to, and that it felt very good to do so at some point, then healing will not occur. I know that the later stages are filled with ambivalence, thought discrepancies and distorted messages from the limbic system, but this first step still must occur before the client can examine the pros and cons of using vs. reduction or abstinence. I agree that pushing through resistance has its place in personal growth. I disagree that we all know what we “should” do. The word “should”, in my opinion, is possibly the filthiest, dirtiest curse word in the English language. It ALWAYS means that we are trying to look good, or pass muster for someone else’s idea of what we ought to be. This is fundamentally a disconnect from one’s true desires. Fact is, if I come home from work and flip on the TV, I did NOT really want to read a book. I might have believed that I “should” read a book because it is “good for me” and I very probably have enjoyed reading books on occasion in the past. I probably believed this because I heard from a lot of other people that reading books is somehow better than watching TV. In working with addicts, it is very important to reach this level of honesty. If an addict cannot acknowledge that they used drugs because they wanted to, and that it felt very good to do so at some point, then healing will not occur. I know that the later stages are filled with ambivalence, thought discrepancies and distorted messages from the limbic system, but this first step still must occur before the client can examine the pros and cons of using vs. reduction or abstinence.

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